HW- TRIAC

In A New Civil Rights Kenji says, ” He told me his only advice for the coming years was that I should be more my self, that instead of reasoning within the law as it existed, I should speak my truth and make the law shape itself around me.” What Kenji is trying to say in this quote is that if you stay true to yourself and beliefs then you’re environment around you will respond to you in a positive way. I believe that it’s always great being honest with yourself with who you are and what you believe. If you’re not being honest with yourself are you really you? For someone to be at their full potential as a person then they need to accept themselves for who they are and try not to be someone that they are not. In the quote, I mentioned earlier he said if he speaks his truth then the law will shape around him. I relate that to a person being their true self then the world will shape around him. Meaning not everyone in this world will like you or agree with you, but stay being real with yourself and you’ll find the right people who you want to be with, and you’ll also enjoy the things that you are doing more.

I believe that you don’t always need a False self in order to succeed in life. Kenji says that the true self and the false self work side by side to help one another. He explains it by saying, “The true self and false self are symbiotic, Winnicott believes both selves will exist even in the healthy individual.” With this quote, he believes that they work with each other inside of a healthy individual. I believe that they do, but you don’t always need the false self to hide your true self. The false self Is what is supposed to help you initially. These are for things like your job interview, but once you pass through your job interviews you show your true self and have your co-workers except you fro who you are.

The only thing that belongs in the closet is your clothes. No person should stay hidden “in the closet”. You can’t flourish to be the person that you are, and you should never be scared to be you. You will find the people who love you for who you are and will be proud to be around you and spend time with you. also In a ted talk by Anne Hallward, she says, ” the thing about being in the closet is that you can see that it is very dark in there. And in that darkness, you can’t see very clearly.” Anne explains that in the closet you are more confused than when you just be yourself. You need to flourish and not be ashamed of you you are and express how you feel mentally and emotionally. to be happy with yourself you need to not be ashamed of who you are and be proud of the real you.

We all have something to be ashamed about, but that doesn’t mean being ashamed means you need to be scared to tell your story. Shame has such a negative effect on society, and in reality, you should see your shame as a positive. Everyone has a story and if one person shares there shame you may open the flood gates of shame. What I mean when I say that is telling a story of your shame creates a chain reaction of people opening up and expressing their shame. Anne Hallward told a story about how her dad had dementia and she just wished she died. When she shared her shame people opened up about their shame and during the talk she mentioned, “And the emails started coming in, saying thank you so much for saying that. I felt that way too about my mother but I felt so ashamed I didn’t tell anybody.” as you can see a lot of people have a lot in common and they just don’t know it. Shame is something that everyone has and when we express our shame people feel more comfortable expressing their own shame and turning a negative feeling into a comforting, positive feeling.